Can You End A Fight In 30 Seconds?
Is it really possible? Well, yes it is. But you cannot let your ego get
in the way of this strategy or your family may see you on the evening
news. Below are some strategies we study in Krav Maga.
Here are 5 tips on how to not let a fight escalate:
1. The number one thing you should AWAYS do is be in condition
yellow when in a public place. Jeff Cooper’s “Color Code” explains
how there are differnt levels of awareness. White, yellow, orange
and red. Most law enforcement officers are trained
in the color code system. This topic will be covered in a future
blog . But for the purposes of this article, condition yellow means
to be relaxed but aware of what is going on around you at all times.
Do not put yourself in a situation that will take you by surprise.
You should be able to asses who is around you and determine
any potential threat before it escalates into a problem.
2. Let’s say you were in condition white, which means that you were
totally unaware of your surroundings. For me as a martial artist, the only
time I am in condition white is when I am sleeping. And even then I have
my dogs as backup who are always in condition yellow. However, now
you find yourself in a situation that has taken you by surprise. A
beligerent stranger in a bar says you bumped in to him as you go
back to your table with a drink. NEVER turn your back on the
aggressor without diffusing the situation first. Keep your distance
and keep your hands ready and up but not in an aggresive stance.
Be confident, assertive and say whether they are wrong or right
“My apologies. This place is packed tonight. I did not even realize I bumped into you.”
3. Beligerent guy is itching for a fight and is either drunk or high
on some kind of drugs. Stay calm and not get swept up with emotions.
This is easier to do if you breathe and assess the situation. This guy
is impaired, numb and may be acting out of anger due to a situation that has
nothing to do with you. But you are their stand in target for the moment.
If you have empathy for them, this will help keep you calm. By shiffing
your mind to empathy, you keep the adrenaline from flooding your blood
with your natural fight or flight instinct.
You never know what someone is going through in life. Maybe he just lost his job,
he just found out his spouse is leaving him, his kid is sick with a terminal illness.
You just never know. Try to diffuse the situation further by saying
“You look really angry. What’s going on? How can I help?”
4. Don’t take the bait and play on their court. Make them play on your court
and view them as a partner, not an enemy. Shift the conversation to throw
them off their game. If you respond the opposite of what he/she thinks you will
do, it will have to make them think of what to say next. You will be messing
up their game plan.
For instance, if they accuse you of something that you obviously did not do, ask
them a question. “Hey, can I make it up to you by sending some wings over to your table?”
Everyone loves food and hopefully a peace offering will calm them down. Going back
to the empathy, something is off in this guy’s life. Be grateful of your own blessings and
play it forward with an act of kindness.
5. Another psychological trick is to imagine yourself as a tank and the
person yelling at you as a guy on the ground shooting bullets at you.
Imagine the bullets deflecting off you and not making any impact on you at all.
Ignore the insults as if you never even heard them and offer a solution to the problem
Krav Maga – Code Red! A Punch Is Thrown
If all of this fails and the person tries to physically assault you, you are
left with no other choice but to defend yourself. Krav Maga training focuses
on how to avoid a fight. However we cannot always control
other people’s irrational behavior. If defending yourself is necessary,
Krav Maga teaches you how to protect yourself or loved one quickly
and aggressively by using all means available to you.
Be formless—Shapeless like water. Now you put water into a cup, it becomes the cup.
You put water into a bottle, it becomes the bottle. Now, water can flow gently, or it can
crash with tremendous force. Be like the nature of water. – Bruce Lee